LISTEN TO BODY LANGUAGE... it can teach you a lot!

I invite you to...

Create awareness right now about your own body and how you are feeling, where you are reading this, etc. Now - what are you projecting that others are listening to?  This is a good start.

Take a Beginning Step: Now notice your family members. What is their body language saying? Are they feeling down and cannot say it? Do they need privacy and need to be alone and not talk for a while? Are they hiding under the hooded jacket out of fear?

Take an Intermediate Step: Start noticing body language everywhere - posture especially. What are you learning about yourself?

Take an Advanced Step:

http://www.nlpcoaching.com/NLP_Communication_Model.pdf

Body language can be further studied by learning about Neuro-Linguistic Programming. Here is a link to introduce you to the basics. Google NLP for more learning.

Why Do It?

In a study of communication at the University of Pennsylvania in 1970 (Kinesics and Communication, R. Birdwhistle), the researchers determined that in communication, 7% of what we communicate is the result of the words that we say, or the content of our communication. 38% of our communication to others is a result of our verbal behavior, which includes tone of voice, timbre, tempo, and volume. 55% of our communication to others is a result of our non-verbal communication-- our body posture, breathing, skin color and our movement. The match between our verbal and non-verbal communication indicates the level of congruency in what we are attempting to communicate.  Can you work at becoming more congruent?

How To Use This Tip:

Body language is a whole science. Just to start your new awareness, start paying attention to it everywhere.

This Week's Success Story:

From one dad who is learning...

I have been practicing RESPECT and LISTENING deeply in most cases with GREAT results: more interesting conversations, more lively, less of me and more of the TEENS. I have found it takes reprogramming your mind and heart, daily recommitment, and you need to catch yourself preparing to speak negatively and redirect for the positive. Since we are never "finished" as parents, adults, workers, husbands, etc.  I have also expanded your teaching/guidance to "my contacts beyond teens" to help me in reprogramming myself because practice makes perfect and because the TEENS are the most challenging. I am getting tons of practice with everyone I come in contact with. As a daily reminder I have put Parent as Coach on my daily planner and it helps remind me every time I look at it to be respectful, be positive, be a good listener and brighten up someone's day. God bless you and thanks for the lifetime lesson. P.S.: My wife and kids and co-workers are grateful.

Frank George, Ft. Lauderdale, Florida, USA

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