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Using Spiritual Principles to Stay Connected!

2012-04-24T19:05:37Z

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/everydaywisdomforfamilies/2012/04/24/remember-the-bible-testimony-joshua-24-15-choose-this-day

Today, I recorded a 45 minute interview with Everyday Wisdom for Families - the link above is the recording for your support and edification on using Biblical principles via The Parent as Coach Approach. I am honored to share these ideas with you, as I am and was and always will be - my own first client. Listen and prepare to improve your family relationships - possibly even over night!

Onward!

Diana

The Stay Connected Challenge - Purple Days in April!

2012-04-13T16:55:20Z

Right now The Stay Connected Challenge hits home for me in my relationship with my husband. To honor our commitment to Staying Connected - and at this time we have many external challenges and transitions - we are heading out today for Three Purple Days!

What are purple days you ask? My 2012 intentions are to get away and decompress 3 days out of each month - our days are clearly marked on the family calendar for three Purple Days per month - purple because that is the color of the pen I had handy way back in January! So this is our 4th month of Staying Connected to Purple Days with each other!

Proactive connection works better than reactive. Take time to think it out.

Diana, Your Family Coach

The Stay Connected Challenge is always relevant!!!

2012-04-10T16:36:57Z

"Great people talk about ideas.

Average people talk about things.

Small people talk about other people."

Staying Connected of course is about people - to our families, our children, our friends, our associates. And the great paradox is this - talking TO people will bear much fruit - talking ABOUT them leads downhill. So how do we harness what words come out of our mouths?

W A I T - Why am I talking? I will audit my speech today - having already not been at my best today and it is only 10:30 AM..... OK, I can do better. Will you join me? What impact will this have on your children?

Your Family Cach - Diana Sterling

Saturday! Final Stay Connected Week Theme!

2012-04-07T23:58:07Z

So yesterday we tried out "you cannot complain and connect at the same time." How did it go? I am reminded by several leaders who say - "Life's struggles happen FOR us, not to us." If you struggled last week - could you remain open to the lesson FOR you, rather than being victim of circumstance?

Staying connected and not complaining (Try one whole day of not saying one negative thing or complaining thing...!!!) does not mean that we live in a world of peace, love and harmony. Anyone can see we live in a world of struggle, heartache, disappointment, misery, loss, pain---but as we know also "what we focus on expands!?"

OK, lets wind up our Stay Connected Week with a new determination and focus to accept struggle and still remain objective and aware to possibilities of all kinds amidst our busy lives.

See you back here on Monday....a new week to learn, love, and be the light...all while staying connected!

Onward!

Diana

Thank God it is.....TODAY!!! Connect even on a Friday!

2012-04-06T16:46:21Z

This week we have focused on mindfulness..no matter what the day! Today is Friday and today we simply celebrate TODAY....no matter what!

What if we taught our kids how to not complain about the days of the week? YES, you cannot complain and connect at the same time.

Just the same you cannot be sad and angry at the exact same minute. That is mindfulness - knowing what you are doing in the moment. If you are aware of what you are doing, thinking, being and saying...you can choose your thoughts, emotions, actions and make clearer decisions.

Please consider connection and celebration today, and take a day off of complaining. Your next miracle is around the corner!

I celebrate and connect with ...you!

Onward,

Diana

Are you still connected on ....THURSDAY?? Slog no more!

2012-04-05T18:12:01Z

Oh my gosh, it is Thursday....The week goes on! If you have been following our path this week, it is about WHO CARES about the days of the week when you are living and breathing to the fullest?? Or are you simply slogging through the week?

I am committed today to Staying Connected to my clients, my family and my inner light. If the inner light goes out - what is left? Just a pile of darkness. ICK!!

Yesterday I stayed connected; I sent out my newsletters to those who are committed to the higher road of family peace. I had a meaningful conversation with my husband, another with my son, I connected on LinkedIn and Facebook, I connected with my international team with Relationship Coaching Institute...wow so many connections when I think about it.

Today I have already experienced meaningful connection with my Start a Business Now coaching group with an elite bunch of very committed coaches who are changing the world and their world. Powerful!!!

http://how-to-start-a-business-now.com/

I am learning from my own blogging....much ahead in The Stay Connected Challenge as it allows me to look in the mirror and stay connected....by choice not default.

Onward!

Diana

UFC Ultimate Family Coaching! A Resource for Coaches

2012-04-04T22:27:28Z

I am excited to share this important article about Family Coaching with you - just released in Choice Magazine!

What is Family Coaching anyway, in these turbulent times? Teenagers, parents,

family members and groups comprise the landscape of family coaching. The professionally trained and certified coach is presented with special challenges right out of the gate in regards to relationships, because the client comes to the coach with one or more core relationship(s) in the family as 'the issue.'

To quote a coaching forefather, Dr.William Glasser...

CLICK HERE TO READ THE ENTIRE ARTICLE

Subscribe to Choice - keep "looped" on trends and ideas for your own growth and that of your clients! Sign up for the newsletter for FREE and Choice will send you the entire current issue- also for FREE! Thanks to Garry at Choice for making this possible! There are many wonderful articles in each issue of Choice- I endorse this fully!

I am committed to sharing with all blog readers the occasional resource for professionals who work with youth, parents and families. This important article was recently published by Choice Magazine - THE magazine (both online and paper) for professional coaching.

Onward to excellence!

Diana

YOUR Stay Connected Challenge - even on Wednesday!

2012-04-04T16:18:13Z

Some of you have challenging weeks -and Wednesday is that middle of the week and you cannot wait until weekends. I get it. And, what message does that send to your family members and specifically your teens and your kids? Are you teaching them to "react" to the days of the week?

Here is a midweek idea - forget about the days of the week and be mindful and present to your teenager and family ALL DAYS of the week.

Here is my personal story - not often shared;

In the past I have carried unimaginable responsibilities without a lot of support. Rather than caving in, complaining, getting into my own personal victim mentality, not thinking of them as burdens but rather opportunities....I coined a phrase to assist me in Staying Connected to ALL of my responsibilities: Here it is:

All parts are equal.

What I do with this and did with it in the past, is that I create even keel mindfulness for each and every day, minute, crisis, opportunity, random event, you name it. It keeps the complaining out of my head. Hard yes - worth it - yes!

All parts are equal and all days are equal. Each day has plenty of activity to celebrate and embrace. Stay Connected on Wednesday.

Diana - Your Family Coach

OK, now it is Tuesday - are you still connected and plugged in?

2012-04-03T18:53:50Z

So many people make such a big deal out of the days of the week. How about if every day is a blessing and honor to be plugged in to your HPI (new term I learned - thank you Katie and Nancy...) Highest Potential Impact!

Staying Connected means paying attention to what you are paying attention to. Today I am paying attention to making sure that each moment has a chance to be my HPI.

I think the world would radically change if everyone took the Stay Connected Challenge - to stay connected, plug in and focus on your HPI - EVERY DAY OF THE WEEK!

Onward!

Diana

Monday - the best day for the Stay Connected Challenge!

2012-04-02T17:14:58Z

Happy Monday!

I saw many facebook posting this am as I greeted the day with excitement for a new project I am working on! It seems that 2012 IS shaping up to be a year of new ideas, possibilities, and optimism!

And yes I ready CNN each morning as well on-line so I am clued in as to the pain and struggle of our world. But as for me and my family, we decided to greet the day with putting our faith in the Almighty where it belongs. This does not mean to abdicate our responsibilities or our plans and goals.

One post sums it all up from Harv Eker.. I LOVE MY LIFE! Can you imagine if every parent everywhere felt this way and passed it on to their children each day! WOAH - we COULD change the world.

Summary: Today is Monday, I love my Life, I am grateful for what we have, there are struggles all around us both out there and close at hand, I love God, I love my family and I have much to offer the world when I am in a space of love and excitement to simply BE positive. I am staying connected to all of these things today.

Will you change your world today? Even on Monday?

Diana

The "Stay Connected Challenge" Works! It is my Calling.

2012-03-31T17:40:53Z

Hi there,

As Your Family Coach, reaching out via this blog, my newsletter, facebook, twitter and any other way I can think to help parents and families AND TEENS - with some good news and hope is what I do. It is my calling.

I made a pact with the Almighty 15 years ago when HE called me to advocate for teens, parents and families, that the road would occasionally be bumpy, full of darts, financial struggles, uphill battles, fighting off doubters that the personal development and positive orientation I bring forth would be criticized and put down. I can handle it....because every day and every breath I thank God that the "work" of The Parent as Coach Approach works. It has saved my life and that of my son and of many others.

The "work" as we say is based on thousands of years of personal development, ontological philosophy (google that!), spirituality, health, and the basics of human character of wisdom, strength and courage.

Don't take my word for it - just download the book - it is FREE for heavens sake...and read it! www.dianasterling.com

Then try the action steps for yourself and watch what happens....... I am not selling you anything here. I am a messenger of some good ideas that could change your life. Did I say... these ideas are free? Take heart, reach beyond, have courage and try something new - as we say here....

The life you save may be your own. Or that of a beloved family member.

Onward with courage!

Diana

Stay Connected NOW! RIGHT NOW!

2012-03-30T19:54:53Z

Tomorrow may be too late. We have all read about tragedies around the world involving young people leaving this world too soon. There is no measurement for prevention and pro-action, because we all are witness to.... "after the fact."

NOW - TODAY - RIGHT NOW - THIS MOMENT! What ever it takes, reach out and Stay Connected in the next 5 minutes. Perhaps your connection with love, support, respect and simply communication may help avoid a tragic mistake.

Connect via text, email, make a call, hug your teenager, hold a hand, facebook, you decide...just connect NOW...RIGHT NOW.

Choice Theory founder William Glasser Conference June!

2012-03-29T22:30:28Z

Important update from The William Glasser Institute!

William Glasser will be giving his final conference this June 2012 in Los Angeles, USA at Loyola Marymount University 6th to 9th June 2012.
Here is the link to learn more -below is the personal letter from his wife to the Choice Theory Community

http://www.wgai.net/section/a-letter-to-you-from-carleen

Choice Theory is one of the underpinnings of the Parent as Coach Approach - we stand on the shoulders of this giant and pioneer - William Glasser.
Professionals, parents, those interested in living a pro-active and fully AT CHOICE life - I suggest this conference!
Here are the 10 Axioms of Choice Theory:

The only person whose behavior we can control is our own.
All we can give another person is information.
All long-lasting psychological problems are relationship problems.
The problem relationship is always part of our present life.
What happened in the past has everything to do with what we are today, but we can only satisfy our basic needs right now and plan to continue satisfying them in the future.
We can only satisfy our needs by satisfying the pictures in our Quality World.
All we do is behave.
All behavior is Total Behavior and is made up of four components: acting, thinking, feeling and physiology.
All Total Behavior is chosen, but we only have direct control over the acting and thinking components. We can only control our feeling and physiology indirectly through how we choose to act and think.
All Total Behavior is designated by verbs and named by the part that is the most recognizable.

Stay Connected...to integrity, honesty and clarity

2012-03-29T17:24:29Z

Our Stay Connected Challenge has to do with the main focus of my book - The Parent as Coach Approach: 7 Ways to Coach Your Teen in The Game of Life. Also on audio book - imagine listening WITH your teen in the car!

And.....the Stay Connected Challenge approach is to take a deep look at what and how and why you as the parent are staying connected to.

One of the ideas we present in the book is this: if you and your teen can connect and communicate in an honest, open way using clear communication about things like laundry, house chores, driving rules, kitchen responsibilities.....then and only then will you be able to handle the tougher issues like sex, money, drugs, alcohol, dating....(go ahead and name the challenge in your family at this time...)

Today' challenge - audit your communication to see if it is with integrity, honesty and clarity. Your teen will model what and how you speak!

Onward!

What are you Connected to?

2012-03-27T16:58:34Z

As Your Family Coach, I put this question out for all of us - myself included. Am I connected to my own family, my own commitments, my own values, my own spiritual practices, to God? Or ...the internet, being right all the time, having all the answers, texting, emailing and otherwise ...the media input 24/7?

There is no right or wrong answer -this is called an "inquiry" - taking the time to be with the question, mull it over and see how the answers over time shape up.

"What am I connected to?" Fodder for your journal today.

Onward!

Stay Connected to...well "Staying Connected!"

2012-03-26T01:13:24Z

Hey there!

My commitment is my coach. My commitment to my family gets me up in the morning, directs my prayers, helps me make time-based decisions, encourages me to think about the high road, and helps me CHOOSE to stay connected...in person, by phone, skype, text, email, facetime...even telepathy.

I made a big decision last week to meet my son in Phoenix to explore a masters program he is considering. He flew in from New York and for me, from New Mexico. My commitment to him IS my always and forever coach and I am so glad I spent the time and resources.....!

Is your commitment your coach? Does it help you stay connected even when the going is rough? When you disagree? When you are in pain and struggling in family relationships? Decide today to make your commitment your coach.

Onward!

Stay Connected Challenge - Try a Feedback Sandwhich!

2012-03-19T17:11:06Z

Greetings to all!! Staying connected can be hard work. What to do? Start with your wife, husband, partner or co-caregiver. Kids model parents, so try a relationship audit! How about a Friday night "date" to do a "feedback sandwhich!"
1. Each take a turn and here how it goes.
a. BREAD - one acknowledgement of a positive thing in your partner
b. MEAT or VEGGIES - one stretch you can ask of your partner
c. BREAD - one acknowledgement for one awesome thing in your partner

This is regular routine in our home - sometime every DAY!!!
Onward,

Diana

7.5 hours per day average your teenager is using media...what "Stay Connected Challenge?"

2012-03-13T16:49:28Z

As anyone who knows a teen or a tween can attest, media are among the most powerful forces in young people’s lives today. Eight- to eighteen-year-olds spend more time with media than in any other activity besides (maybe) sleeping—an average of more than 7½ hours a day, seven days a week. The TV shows they watch, video games they play, songs they listen to, books they read and websites they visit are an enormous part of their lives, offering a constant stream of messages about families, peers, relationships, gender roles, sex, violence, food, values, clothes, and an abundance of other topics too long to list. ...

Read the rest of this important article -
and decide if and how you are going to
Stay Connected in the Teen Years!!??

http://www.kff.org/entmedia/upload/8010.pdf

How about real person to person conversation, hugs, dinner time together sans media, sports time, walks, ...remember those days??? What will you do about it?

Your "Staying Connected Challenge" - SO WHAT!?

2012-03-12T18:14:27Z

Parent as Coach Approach Interview With Life Coach Diana Sterling

By Warren, Attract Abundance Editor

CLICK HERE TO LISTEN - IT WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE!

This Parent As Coach Approach interview with life coach Diana Sterling was originally conducted in 2008 and was part of my (now closed) Inspired Prosperity membership program.

At the time, Diana Sterling and I were both co-authors of the book Wake Up Live the Life You Love: The Power of TEAM which is how I came to meet her.

If you haven’t heard of The Parent as Coach Approach you are in for a treat.

This important radio interview could re-shape and improve forever - the way you relate to your kids.

Warren - The Attract Abundance Editor
http://www.inspiredabundance.com

Free Gift - Do you have a "Stay Connected Success Story?"

2012-03-03T19:22:54Z

Send us a "Stay Connected Challenge!'" on how you have
Stayed Connected with your Teenager!

The first 5 stories will receive a personal gift from me of The Parent as Coach Approach DVD ($29.95 retail price and I will even pay for priority shipping!) - 90 minutes of Diana teaching and coaching 5 parents in living room setting - with eye opening aha moments. Watch it with your family, parents, teenagers or spouse and get ready to amp up your Staying Connected Strategies!

Join us in the Living Room of The Stay Connected Challenge and put all 6 of us in YOUR living room.

Submit here under COMMENTS! Onward to sharing some much needed good news with our Stay Connected Challenge Community!